I
highly recommend this book. It has been a while since I have read a
book containing so much insight and practical information. The topic
is listening and the character traits and behaviors that make us good
listeners are covered well.
The
part of the book that had the greatest impact on me was the section
explaining how humility is a requirement to being a good listener.
Harling believes growth requires getting honest feedback. Humility is
essential to listening well and getting the feedback we need.
The book includes lots of practical suggestions about life in general. If you want
to appear more inviting to other people, smile more and walk with a
bounce in your step. If you want to assess the emotional state of
others, body language tips are given to increase our observation
skills. She also has a great chapter on navigating conflict,
including good suggestions for dealing with toxic people.
Harling
includes many practical ideas. For example, she has questions to ask
ourselves when we feel like we are compelled to give advice rather
than compassionately listen. She has ideas for drawing out other
people's stories. She has a great section on the necessity of being
self aware and how to get there.
We
Christians are admonished to be quick to listen and slow to speak
(James 1:19). That is not an easy task in our egotistical society.
Harling offers biblically based practical ideas for being good
listeners. If you want people to feel heard and loved, I highly
recommend this book to you. In addition of great content in the text,
she has added questions at the end of each chapter to help us
listen to God, our heart, and others. Mastering the art of being a
good listener comes with a cost but the rewards are great.
Food
for thought: “...it is impossible to be a good listener without
developing a humble spirit.” (Loc 453/2726)
You
can read an excerpt here.
My
rating: 5/5 stars.
Becky
Harling is a certified speaker, leadership coach, and trainer with
The John Maxwell Team. She is the founder of Moms Unleashed and the
author of several books. She and her husband live in Colorado
Springs, Colorado. You can find out more at http://beckyharling.com/.
Bethany
House, 176 pages.
I
received a complimentary digital copy of this book from the
publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.