Thursday, June 17, 2021

Happy Not Perfect by Poppy Jamie

I appreciate this interesting account of one women finding out her relationship to happiness. She discovered that happiness does not rely on external things but rather who one is inside.

Jamie shares her journey so this is a more personal book than one often finds in the wellness genre. She ended up in the hospital with exhaustion and that set her on a quest to understand why she did what she did, what she was working so hard to acquire. She shares what she learned from reading books and talking to people.

I have read many books in this genre but learned some new ideas from this book. I think I finally came to understood how we arrive at our core beliefs. Jamie explained it in a way I had not seen before. I was surprised to find out about memory, that our brain does not file away every detail but only enough for us to make sense of the event. Jamie encouraged us to reframe memories, not to forget but to be able to make peace with them.

Her technique consists of four steps. We connect with with our body, our feelings. We become curious about our thoughts and actions. We make choices about thoughts and actions. We make a commitment to uphold our values. Jamie has included some very good exercises to explain the steps and how they work.

This is a good book for people who like insights in the context of personal experience. Jamie will help you develop a nurturing and caring approach to reprogramming our minds. One caveat: Jamie uses some foul language that is unnecessary.

Read an excerpt and listen to a sample of the audio here.

My rating: 4/5 stars.

Poppy Jamie is an entrepreneur, influencer, and rising star in the mental health and mindfulness space. She launched the Not Perfect podcast and the Happy Not Perfect app after four years of aggregating behavioral studies and developing the app with neuroscientists, researchers, and her neurotherapist mom. She has been featured in the New York Times, Wired, Fast Company, Refinery29, Forbes, Vogue, Bustle, Cosmo, E!, NBC News, and MTV.

Rodale Books, 320 pages.

I received a complimentary egalley of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.

(My star ratings: 5-I love it, 4-I like it, 3-It's OK, 2-I don't like it, 1-I hate it.)

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